The Party’s Over

Put down that calendar! Before you plan your next party, how about spending some time going over the one that just finished to see what worked, what didn’t and what could have been better schöne rahmen zum downloaden.

The Guests

Look back over your guest list, this time concentrating on the ones who came. Did anyone make a fool of them-self, cause a problem or generally show themselves as an ungrateful boor youtube lieder mp3 downloaden? This is especially helpful when evaluating new members of your guest book so you know who not to invite in the future. More than the obvious offenders, were there more subtle clues that the guest was not right for your party such as not mingling, finding there own space amidst the party or even, say, spending more time inside when the party was out music download ios app. They may not be bad guests, it just might not be the best party scenario for them. Also keep in mind who really enjoyed themselves, who got best into the spirit of the party and joined in the fun to the fullest long youtube videos online download. These are the people you definitely want to have back!

The Menu

While you munch on a few leftovers, consider what dishes were popular and which, if any, got a lukewarm reception photoshop free download nederlands mac. I’ll use my recent party as an example:

Appetizers & Nibbles

Crudites platter (pea pods, broccoli, carrots, celery, radishes) with dip
Spicy Black Bean Dip* with chips
Bacon-wrapped Artichoke Hearts*
Smothered Spuds*
Spinach Dip in Bread Bowl

Main Course

Barbecue Chicken Breasts
Shredded Beef, with Rolls and choice of sauces (including au jus and horseradish sauces)
Farfalle with Peas, Ham and a Tarragon Cream Sauce**
Cold Cucumber Soup**
Salad of Zucchini, Yellow Squash, Jicama & Radish with a Creamy Citrus dressing**


Blueberry-Lemon cupcakes with Lemony Cream Cheese frosting
Mexican Chocolate Fondue w/a variety of dippers & fresh fruit
(cookie bars, brownies, marshmallows, graham crackers, cake cubes, strawberries, pineapple, red & green grapes, blueberries and apple slices)


Sparkling Citrus Punch (non-alcoholic)
Melon Balls (alcoholic)
Beer, Wine, Water and Sodas plus a full bar

*=old favorites, the dishes everyone expects at one of my parties
**=brand new recipes, never before tried

The old favorites continue to be popular and the main dish spread was balanced and mostly popular windows 7 bildbearbeitungsprogramm kostenlos downloaden. The pasta dish was very tasty and a good gamble, as was the salad and dressing, even though I could have made a lot less but that goes for the entire party as there were a lot of no-shows from the maybe and non-responder segments herunterladen. The only no-go was the cucumber soup: the taste was okay but most people found it very unfamiliar. Also, I’d served it in shot glasses (which is an idea I picked up a while back from magazines and television) to avoid the need for spoons and so forth but some people thought it was an adult beverage and not a soup youtube filmpjeen vlc. I opted not to do signage for this buffet, maybe I should have.

Of course the desserts were popular, even though the blueberry-filled cupcakes ended up as blueberry-bottomed ones (the filling sunk, unexpectedly, sank–should have stuck to fresh or frozen berries instead of prepared filling!) downloaden auf smartphone. A few people found the fondue a bit odd as the mexican chocolate included bits of cocoa nibs so it wasn’t 100% smooth. It was still really tasty, though, and more of a one-time thing since we’d brought the chocolate home from our cruise in January and won’t be repeating the trip any time soon (more’s the pity) windows 10 32 biten.

The Entertainment

Even though some of the best parties I’ve been to just offered a platform for people to mix and mingle, I like my parties to have something for the guests to DO (like carve pumpkins, watch–and critique–movies or play yard games). This depends as much on what you provide as well as the people you invite as to who enjoys what. Did one game receive a better reception than others? Bring it back! Others not go over so well? Try it on a new group or retire that idea and look for something better. Never be afraid to try something new but don’t be so married to one idea that you stick with it even when it doesn’t work.

Now, pick up that calendar and address book and plan the next shin-dig with another fabulous success under your belt and the knowledge of what worked and what to change.


Répondez s’il vous plaît. Please respond. Such a simple concept but something that is so often overlooked.

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If you have included RSVP information (a name and phone number for the short notations, emails are appropriate for less formal situations) and it’s a week or so before the party with the majority of your guest list unresponsive, it’s completely appropriate to call or email those you know well to as if they will be joining you at the party stereomix herunterladen. But only do it once–hostessing isn’t about badgering the guests, after all. A quick note about how much you’re looking forward to seeing them again is a nice way to make them feel, truly, like an honored guest and not just a name on a list herunterladen.

Still, if even that doesn’t work you’ve got 2 choices: prepare for those who replied or count the non-responders as maybes and prepare accordingly video herunterladen browser. Since my biggest nightmare of having a party is running out of food, I go with the latter and send leftovers home with willing guests.

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. . . when I had this garden party for my father’s birthday right? I said R.S.V.P. because it was a sit-down dinner. But people came that like, did not R.S.V.P. so I was like, totally buggin’. I had to haul ass to the kitchen, redistribute the food, squish in extra place settings, but by the end of the day it was like, the more the merrier!

And that’s what really matters, isn’t it? In a perfect world everyone would RSVP, there would be no glitches during party preparation and we’d all meet our guests at the door in a calm manner and not scrambling to get that last dish (or 2) out onto the buffet. Until then, we just have to deal.

The Guest List

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Crafting a guest list is more than just printing out your address book onto labels and calling it a day. Choose your guests with an eye towards how they’ll mix with each other and the event you have in mind and you’re that much closer to a perfect party.

Rings on Her Fingers, Page 14

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Case in point: After we’d been emailing for a bit I decided I wanted to go out on Saturday night and just get plastered. See, I always drove myself to the clubs so that meant I had to always be able to drive myself home, hence the responsible schtick herunterladen. This time I wanted to see what it felt like to actually get drunk. (I said it wasn’t smart!!!) Anyway, I was spinning this theory out in chat (ah, msn messenger, how I do NOT miss you) and hinting wildly I might add, when Michael graciously (heh) offerred to meet up with me at the bar and make sure I got home safely how can I download videos from youtube to my phone. Plan in motion, I had one of my roommates drop me off later than evening.

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Party Fouls, Part 3

Especially not when it’s the same person!!!

Sigh… I’ve never claimed not to be a control freak. I freely admit to wanting things a certain way but I’m also willing to do the work so that no one else has to birthday cards to download. I had a very specific idea in mind for my 30th birthday party and, by and large, I got it. What proved a damper was the look-at-me tendency of one of the guests that afternoon ps1 spiele downloaden. I shouldn’t have been surprised, honestly, but it did sort of sting. A few times during the evening I felt very unnecessary at my own party! Sure, I _could_ have made my own scene but 2 wrongs definitely do not make a right minecraft mods herunterladen kostenlos. It’s tough to balance the desire to have your guests enjoy themselves from the hostess point of view and also get the attention you deserve as the birthday girl, which is why I don’t really encourage throwing your own birthday party as a general rule hp spiele kostenlosen.

Of course, a good hostess also knows how to select a guest list. If someone is prone to steal-the-show or cause drama, that person does not get invited back weihnachtsmotive zumen gratis. Unless, you know, you’re short some entertainment of the train wreck variety 😉

Party Fouls, Part 2

That was _so_ not a happy new year. Wow. It certainly explains why I was so very sick that next day.

Granted, I was way past tipsy on my own that night and didn’t worry too much about it at the time because I knew I had a designated driver that night einladungskarten 80 geburtstag kostenlosen. It was only looking back after the fact when I tried to remember how much I’d had to drink when I realized something wasn’t adding up. Sure, we’d killed the first pitcher of mangotinis before 10pm but after the liquor run (I didn’t drive) I had maybe 2 more ‘tinis and one candy bar shot (equal parts butterschnapps, godiva liqueur, and Irish cream) vlc media playeren mac.

Musing to Jen, who was also at the party, later I found out that one of the other guests had been topping off my drink on a regular basis while I was watching whatever odd movie was on (Mad Mad Mad Mad World chip download kostenlos? I think?). I only thought I slowed down my drinking as the night went on!

Party Fouls, Part 1

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It is my firmly held belief that at someone’s birthday party you do what that person wants–it’s the perk for getting older. It’s one thing if you’ll be late because of other obligations and arrive when your schedule allows, but to purposely avoid portions of the party as if you were skipping classes is not the way to go about it bloons tower defense 6 kostenlos herunterladen. In general, if the expected activities are not to your liking it is much better to RSVP a regret and send your birthday wishes separately to the honoree lms. But in this case, the planned activities didn’t exactly gel, that night, and we actually ended up doing things the unfashionably late guest would have really enjoyed (including watching one of her favorite flicks) herunterladen.

For the record: from the very beginning my pumpkin parties have had at least 30% of attendees who did not carve a pumpkin. Did they wait and just come for dinner scan programm kostenlos herunterladen? No. They came to the party and hung out with everyone and had a great time. To my knowledge no one I have ever invited has turned down the invitation because they weren’t interested in carving pumpkins apps downloaden werkt niet.

Tenting Optional

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